It was somehow a combination of having high expectations for us and instilling the self-confidence to be able to say "of course we can". You want to learn to knit? Of course you can, and it's completely OK if it's just a long strip (the infamous "snake blanket") that has a different number of stitches on each row. You want to learn to sew? Of course you can, and Dad will proudly wear the plaid tie you made for him.
If you want to try to make something on the mechanical or wood-craft side, such as a built-in cabinet or learning to do an oil change, it starts as "Dad, can you help me...", which really means "Dad, can I help you...", and often turns into "Dad, can I watch while you....". Alright, not entirely true as we both know how to change the oil in the car.
With Mom, she would start with making you do it yourself. If it was something you could do but didn't want to, like hemming a pair of pants, all you had to do was keep asking her questions or starting doing it so badly that she couldn't stand it anymore. She would try to stand back but eventually caves-in, and usually with the phrase, "You're giving me a stomach ache".
So HAPPY BIRTHDAY to our Two Crafty Parents from these Two Crafty Girls!
I would get from the girls, "Mom can you fix this for me?"
ReplyDeleteI would reply, "No, but I will show you how to fix it."
This would go on for a few days and eventually it would be, "Mom, can you show me how to fix this please?"